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Don’t Skimp on the Meat

Father’s Day is coming up and I want to share something important I learned from my dad:

Don’t skimp on the meat.

I remember the conversation between my parents when my dad said those words. I thought it was a silly argument at the time. My dad was a miner. He worked long, hard hours in a dangerous situation to keep a roof over our head, food on our table, and the bills paid. One of the few things he asked for in return was that my mother not skimp on the meat in his sandwiches. I remember him saying:

“I don’t want to be filled up with bread. I want a lunch I can enjoy and will keep me going until the end of my shift.”

That’s how my dad lives his life. He busts his butt to get a job done. Any job. Every job. He doesn’t slack. He doesn’t skimp on what he gives others. In return he wants lunch meat piled high on his sandwich. He wants dinner to include a decent-size hunk of meat.

As an adult, I look back and see that he takes that philosophy into other aspects of his life as well. He doesn’t skimp on meat of his life, so to speak. He enjoys his recreational time. He makes sure there’s something to enjoy on his vacation, during his family time, and in his home. He doesn’t skimp, but he’s smart about it. He doesn’t go overboard or put himself in debt to enjoy life. He simply refuses to skimp. Those are things  I equate to being wealthy – in all aspects of life.

I picked up that habit to a certain degree. I like my sandwiches with a lot of meat and when I make sandwiches for other people I don’t skimp on the meat. But unlike my dad, I have not made that philosophy a concrete part of the other aspects of my life. Particularly now that I have children. I skimp on my “Me Time”. I skimp on time with the kids.

I’m a single parent trying to earn an income as a writer so I can stay home to raise them. That’s a big responsibility I take seriously and I bust my butt every day working towards that goal. It’s easy to skimp on the meat in this situation. And that’s not fair to myself or my children.

Are there areas of your life where you been skimping on the meat? They are all important, otherwise what’s the point of working so dang hard? How do we get back on track so that we can enjoy those aspects?

… First, I’m going to make a sandwich. A big one with lots of meat. Then, I’m going to plop down on the sofa and spend time with my kids. I’ll tackle the rest one thing a time <3

Strong Women: My additions to Power of Positivity’s “What to Expect” post

I just read an AMAZING post at the Power of Positivity (PoP) website that listed what to expect when dating a strong woman.

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They really nailed it when outlining our determination to succeed and live fully, as well as things to expect when we wrestle with our fears and doubts.  If you haven’t had a chance to read it, I highly recommend it.

When I finished reading the list, a few more things came to mind that I can say from experience should definitely be addressed.  So, here is my short list of additions to PoP’s post “21 Things to Expect When Dating a Strong Woman” …

 22) We don’t indulge discussions about obstacles unless we’re creating a list of options to get over or around them. So, no annoying talk about why something can’t be done.

 23) Fear doesn’t live here. We have no patience for people (including ourselves)  who find excuses not to seize opportunities for work or play. We expect the people in our lives to have the integrity to do what’s right, whether its taking a risk despite your fears or calling her on something you know she could handle better.

24) She needs people with a strong spine to count on. Her strength springs from overcoming years of pain and fear.  While she doesn’t live in the past, sometimes she’ll be blindsided by past hurts or habits and will need support.


25) Speaking of fear, if you tell a strong woman that she scares you, she will cry.  Not in front of you, of course.  In private.  Most likely in a dark room with something to mask the sound of her sobs.  Then, she’ll pick herself up, decide that you don’t have the fortitude to keep up with her and/or you’re trying to manipulate her behaviour.  Either way, you’ll have lost her respect.

flowers-209144_128026)  We speak plainly.  While we try not to be harsh, we’ve found that sugar-coating things makes others “confused” about our intent or down-play the importance of our words.  So, we say what we mean and mean what we say.  It’s frustrating to be with someone whose ego or feelings are easily bruised.  Plain-speaking isn’t the same as being cruel.  Saying we’re rude or mean is a good way to get escorted to the door.  We don’t have time for self-pity or “delicate flowers”.

27) We don’t compare unless it’s to notice how far we’ve come in our journey.  It’s not a contest, but you do need to pull your own weight.  So, stuff the digs about how much time we spend working or how much money we make in comparison to what you’re doing/getting.  And, for the love of all that is holy – do NOT complain that your strong woman is making progress, but you’re not when you’ve both been presented with the same opportunities.  She will extend a hand to help you with a legit problem or put a foot on your butt to help you keep up, but if you’re not trying to keep pace with her, you’re gonna get left behind.


28) If you treat her and her goals with respect and admiration, and work with her as an equal in all areas of life, her devotion and loyalty to you will only get stronger as your time together progresses.


 Is there anything you would add to PoP’s this list?

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