Strong Women: My additions to Power of Positivity’s “What to Expect” post

I just read an AMAZING post at the Power of Positivity (PoP) website that listed what to expect when dating a strong woman.

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They really nailed it when outlining our determination to succeed and live fully, as well as things to expect when we wrestle with our fears and doubts.  If you haven’t had a chance to read it, I highly recommend it.

When I finished reading the list, a few more things came to mind that I can say from experience should definitely be addressed.  So, here is my short list of additions to PoP’s post “21 Things to Expect When Dating a Strong Woman” …

 22) We don’t indulge discussions about obstacles unless we’re creating a list of options to get over or around them. So, no annoying talk about why something can’t be done.

 23) Fear doesn’t live here. We have no patience for people (including ourselves)  who find excuses not to seize opportunities for work or play. We expect the people in our lives to have the integrity to do what’s right, whether its taking a risk despite your fears or calling her on something you know she could handle better.

24) She needs people with a strong spine to count on. Her strength springs from overcoming years of pain and fear.  While she doesn’t live in the past, sometimes she’ll be blindsided by past hurts or habits and will need support.


25) Speaking of fear, if you tell a strong woman that she scares you, she will cry.  Not in front of you, of course.  In private.  Most likely in a dark room with something to mask the sound of her sobs.  Then, she’ll pick herself up, decide that you don’t have the fortitude to keep up with her and/or you’re trying to manipulate her behaviour.  Either way, you’ll have lost her respect.

flowers-209144_128026)  We speak plainly.  While we try not to be harsh, we’ve found that sugar-coating things makes others “confused” about our intent or down-play the importance of our words.  So, we say what we mean and mean what we say.  It’s frustrating to be with someone whose ego or feelings are easily bruised.  Plain-speaking isn’t the same as being cruel.  Saying we’re rude or mean is a good way to get escorted to the door.  We don’t have time for self-pity or “delicate flowers”.

27) We don’t compare unless it’s to notice how far we’ve come in our journey.  It’s not a contest, but you do need to pull your own weight.  So, stuff the digs about how much time we spend working or how much money we make in comparison to what you’re doing/getting.  And, for the love of all that is holy – do NOT complain that your strong woman is making progress, but you’re not when you’ve both been presented with the same opportunities.  She will extend a hand to help you with a legit problem or put a foot on your butt to help you keep up, but if you’re not trying to keep pace with her, you’re gonna get left behind.


28) If you treat her and her goals with respect and admiration, and work with her as an equal in all areas of life, her devotion and loyalty to you will only get stronger as your time together progresses.


 Is there anything you would add to PoP’s this list?

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